how to forgive when you're mind refuses to forget

No doubt that forgiveness is bigger than the mistake. But yes we are humans and we cant forgive easily. Well take it easy. Accept yourself the way you are. Listen to your innerself, if you feel you cant forgive then just let it be like that. Because what is more important is to accept yourself and the feelings that are coming from within than to negate and feel all the more worse.

Its very natural when we try to fight with the negative vibes in ourself, the more it comes to us. So the mantra is accept whatever positive and negative comes to you. And with time you will find much better things that will make you all the more happy in life and in that state you would feel much better to understand the situtations and things in larger perspective and time will make you forgive everything and you would realise it was such petty thing to take it along with you all your life so its best to part and forgive.

So just believe in time, and find reasons to be happy in life.

Just smile and everybody would smile back to you.